Whether with our own extended families and grandparents or strangers we meet in our daily routines, the holidays are a time to show we care for others young and old.

In our home care business, we employ caregivers who provide personal care and companionship to seniors. Yes, they are certified and have skills in working with and helping seniors. But we also look for those who naturally show compassion and respect for others. Here are some traits of superb caregivers.

1) A good caregiver listens and doesn’t talk back to seniors.

2) A good caregiver has a soft touch. For instance, when applying ointment or lotion to a senior, they are always gentle.

3) A good caregiver speaks softly, not harshly to seniors.

4) A good caregiver lets the senior feel in charge. “He or she understands their senior has lost some independence by not being able to drive or cook by themselves anymore,” explains Njeri Soley, Staff Coordinator for Alternative Home Care for Seniors. “By asking questions and showing interest in the senior’s wishes, they empower the senior,” she adds.

5) A good caregiver is patient. This is especially important when transferring a senior from a chair or bed.

I encourage you to consider the above ideas when dealing with a senior, yourself this holiday and beyond in 2010. And if nothing else, please hold a door or let a senior get through it first the next time you’re at the grocery store. It’s a nice way to show respect for our elder citizens and it will make you feel good, too.

Derrick Merchant is the new Senior Issues writer for Examiner.com. You can see his other articles here.